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By: The Glam |
DISCLAIMER: Biased girl alert.
Like what my colleague used to tell me, talking about BGR is the best way to break the ice. I would have to agree and disagree. Fer sure, it's definitely a topic that everyone can relate to, but definitely not one that might leave a good impression because your relationship personality is somewhat revealing on yourself. So, if you wanna have an air of mystery, maybe don't talk THAT much. But of course, I have a tendency to disclose pretty much everything about myself that leaves me in the most vulnerable position for gossips and badmouthing. But.... that's unfortunately life. If I can bitch, you can too. If I know it hurts and I still gossip, then I know you know it too. It just can't be helped. So that's why we have friends, and we don't. Ok, back to topic.
OPINIONATED GUYS
Some guys are way opinionated, so much so that they impose ideas on their girlfriends which inadvertently makes them trying to want to change their personalities, given ALL the guys in the world the benefit of the doubt that they do not have such intentions to. Such personalities are usually (not always) described as "controlling", "possessive" and "suffocating" for wanting to manipulate every single action of his girlfriend. Bringing this to a hypothetical extreme, he wants to possess her, not exactly love her. But then again, who am I to talk about definitions of love? Okay out of point. Let's get on with it.
OVERLY EGOISTIC GUYS
Then we have guys who are overly egoistic, it's fine to be egoistic - girls like a little bit of the bad boy trait that keeps them manly and desirable (not all some okay). But OVERLY egoistic becomes a problem when they over analyse teeny harmless actions such as paying for food after glimpsing that his wallet has zilch dollars to an inferred one that the girl is intentionally trying to make him look bad by paying which also suggests in the most subtle way in the world how unworthy he is of her because of his finance problems... Really, I get it the insecurity and inferiority complex part and all but... rather than just staring at the bill and the waiter and the empty wallet, dude! She's helping you out of an embarrassing situation. At least she didn't walk out on you in despair and frustration; you should count yourself fortunate to have an understanding girlfriend instead of over analysing and getting overly egoistic about a situation you are not capable of resolving! Most importantly, she DIDN'T say and imply very obviously (the way that girls like to not say but say something and you still get it - if you know the protocol) that you suck as a boyfriend without money. So stop thinking too much.That's what I feel at least.
VIOLENT GUYS
Next up, guy who enjoy thrashing chairs and threatening girls are way over their game. What can't be solved by compromising? Guys who do not have the maturity and sanity enough to handle their emotions or channel them to more useful areas should not even be in a relationship. If they can't even handle their own emotions, what makes them think they are capable of soothing the ever complex situations of a girl's emotional needs? So what happens if she PMSes? Hit her? Kill her? Then what, you feel better? I know, I'm getting a little too extreme here. But you get my point.
I-DON'T-KNOW GUYS
Lastly, my favourite case of guys of them all. The guys who don't know what they want in a relationship. I know, a lot of us don't, we just go with the flow and enjoy the process and decide later when the process becomes shitty. But of course, from a very biased girl's perspective you should know that i'd prefer a guy who knows what he wants. Look, at my age (okay twenty plus, revealed! lol) I'm uncertain about life too, much less relationships. So judging from my need of a stable pivot in my life, I will want someone who is pretty much stable in several aspects of his life, especially in terms of his emotions. If he knows exactly what he wants out of this relationships, he can steer me to a direction. Yes, that sounded like a lazy way out of problematic issues, but I can't pretend to know what I want. I recognize my flaw and find someone to counter that or complement it. Maybe while we are looking for that pivot, guys are also looking for girls like that. So imagine the clash when two uncertain personalities come into play; quarrels and disputes become a staple diet. Maybe things might work out after sometime, but if not... they will be just torturing each other in a cycle. It might probably just be like PMS-ing every month, you can't escape from it.
Of course, when I relate to a trait of a guy, he might posses other traits that might lead to actions and thinkings that are caused by the mixture, not exactly isolating the particular trait in mention. But it's commonsensical that if you are violent you thrash things and when you are emotionally unstable you tend to over analyse right. The chances of you being over analytical because you are violent is almost impossible. You get my point. Just give me the benefit of the doubt for other permutations you can thinks of for now.
But anyway, these are what I have to say so far. Haha. =)
Sorry guys, I warned you about BIASED GIRL'S PERSPECTIVES. hehe.
Okay I'm done!
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Ken Wooi what about the good guys?
everything here are about the bad useless good for nothing guys.. haha =)